Creating healthy high-powered marriage

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Creating a healthy high-powered marriage is possible if you get the equations right despite facing the same circumstances that make other people want to call it quits. Therefore, in creating a healthy high-powered marriage, this article explains 1. traits of high-powered people. 2.7 stress triggers in high-powered relationships. 3. 5 steps for creating a healthy high-powered marriage.

Traits of high-powered people

High-powered people are always trying to fit everything they deem important into the time they have. This attitude allows them to exhibit a unique form of stress adjustment that reflects “hurry sickness,” thus feeling obliged to do more and more in the same short amount of time.

Additionally, in circumstances where ordinary people collapse when faced with the least bit of strain, high-powered people do not collapse. They cannot afford to. Instead, they would rather burn out but keep on going. They see interactions with people, particularly their types, as challenges. So they become hard-driving, competitive, time urgent, controlling, and, in some instances, hot-tempered.

Also because they feel it is important to get everything done, high-powered people easily become frustrated, irritable, and sometimes hostile and cynical. When things do not go their way, they get furious.

7 stress triggers in high-powered relationships

So what happens when high-powered people get into a relationship? The first thing is that if you are not high-powered but in an intimate relationship with a high-powered individual, chances are that you will become high-powered reacting to your partner.

There are seven distinct relationship stress triggers that revolve around high-powered people. These are neither mutually exclusive nor encompass every possibility. However, these stressors are useful for those looking to better understand what is going on in their relationship.

Intolerance

This is the number one stressor for the high-powered, and simply difficult tolerating what goes on in relationships. Relationship issues are the one area high-powered people are not fully in control of, or expert in resolving. This is partly because their coping style generates tension in relationships.

Juggling stuff

They are also accustomed to juggling exceptional amounts of stuff. As a result, normalize abnormal situations, and expect their partners to do the same. But as their relationships develop and evolve, they start to feel as if they are being negatively evaluated. Amidst the stress of being “judged,” the more anxious they become, hence alienating people for not getting what they want. In long-term relationships, this severs intimate connections.

Intimacy

This is a difficult area for hard-driving, competitive, time-urgent people, as they tend not to delve into realms in which they do not feel competent. Thus they avoid intimacy that promotes confidence and mastery which they lack. As a result, high-powered people, who otherwise take control and generate successful outcomes, frequently feel and act inept in their personal lives. Besides, the majority of people living complex lives often become preoccupied with their anxieties, stresses, needs, and wants. And this fuels a second barrier to long-term intimacy in marriage.

Dictatorial and perfectionist

In the struggle to gain or maintain control, high-powered people dictate. Thereby, losing awareness of their reactions and the effect they are having on others. Eventually, they may kill the comfortableness and closeness of their relationships and drift into “vital exhaustion,” accompanied by feelings of hopelessness and helplessness. If you are a perfectionist, you may criticize rather than nurture.

Always in a hurry

If you are always in a hurry, you are not likely to slow down enough to connect with others. If your haste makes you competitive, people may stop confiding because they are afraid of being put down. If you do more than one thing at a time, you are not going to have good communication. If you are always impatient, you increase others’ stress levels.

Susceptible to substance abuse

In trying to cope with excessive work and intimate relationships, and in disregard for health, they become susceptible to substance abuse and depression. A frequent failure to see the repercussions on their partner, or a lack of time to deal with them, results in a relationship that can easily shatter.

Driven by insecurity

The issue of insecurity is a secret of many high-powered people, though they may appear powerful, they are uncertain whether their worth is based on what they do or who they are.

5 steps for creating a healthy high-powered marriage

It takes courage to stop surrounding yourself with toxic situations and people. To help you navigate through experts provide 5 steps for creating a healthy high-powered marriage:

Start a dialogue

Begin an honest conversation about how you relate and the effect it is having in your life. But avoid a long list of how he or she frustrates you.

Be specific

Be specific with your partner about what kinds of behavioral and lifestyle changes will be helpful to you, while also taking responsibility for your part.

Practice pleasure

You need to practice pleasure. The more stress goes up, the more tense you get, the less pleasure you experience. Remember what feels good, and diversify rather than constrict your involvement. As life goes on, there is a tendency to focus less on recess. However, recess is when playfulness and intimacy happen, which is the glue to a relationship.

Be in control

Try to be more in control of your physiology. For instance, master relaxation responses, and learn to monitor and change the effect you have on others. Don’t hurry unnecessarily. Allow yourself to slow down. Likewise, accept it’s OK if stuff slides. In short, do not turn everything into an interpersonal struggle.

Adjust to situations

Finally, remember, no one can create and maintain a perfectly nurturing life. Then, what you need is to constantly adjust your reactions to the people and places that make up your space. Also, ensure that you do not settle for the deadly and unhealthy.

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/unhealthy-marriage-signs-and-finding-help

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